You Teach People How To Treat You
Have you ever heard the statement “You Teach People How To Treat You”. This statement has proven to be true. Many times we enter relationships with individuals and fail to set expectations of how we should be treated in the relationship out of fear of not being accepted by the individual or losing the relationship altogether. We compromise our beliefs and in turn allow the individual that we are involved in to take control of the relationship, instead of working as a partnership, more specifically if you are involved in a male and female relationship. The way you believe and respect yourself will determine how others will treat you. For example, if you love yourself others will be able to see that love reflective in your life and will respect the boundaries you are setting in the friendship or relationship.
For instance, I had a worker that used to make fun of my last name when I was in the presence of other co-workers. The first time the co-worker makes this gesture, I ignored it. However, the co-worker continued to make fun of my last name ever time she saw me and it began to bother me. Well, one day after work I confronted her and explained to her that I felt disrespected and I would appreciate that she would not ridicule me by mispronouncing my last name. I realized that God was shaping my character in how I handled the situation. After my colleague and I talked, we embarked on a mutually respectful relationship.
Now, you may be encountering another situation with a relative or close friend that has offended you and you have not confronted the individual. Why do you continue to dismiss it? Why don’t you confront the individual if it is bothering you? Now, you are angry and avoid the individual at all costs because you don’t want to confront him or her. When we don’t confront a matter, bitterness and unforgiveness settles in and you literally want to hurt the individual because all you feel is emotional pain and disappointment. The only person you can control is you. We must be intentional about confronting situations “head on” before it worsens, because the only person you will continue to injure is yourself. It’s time to take ownership of how you should be treated in relationships because YOU are valuable and God desires that we are whole and complete.
Lets’ Talk:
- Do you have a tendency to compromise how others treat you when you feel you should be treated better? Why?
- What can you do to model and reinforce behavior of how you want to be treated when entering in a relationship?
- What are your thoughts about the statement “the way you feel about yourself determines how an individual treats you”. Do you agree or disagree? What are your thoughts?
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